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The Injustice Gap Not all offenses are created equal. The author Everett L. Worthington uses the term “injustice gap.”  He says that the greater the offense feels to us, the wider the injustice gap. The wider the injustice gap, the more difficult it is for us to forgive our offender. An injustice gap is what…

Believing the Truth About Forgiveness Whatever we think about forgiveness, even if it is not true, we’ll believe it. In my case, before forgiving my father for ending his life by suicide, I didn’t think I had the right to be angry at him about anything. Initially his death made me sad. But, a few…

What We Project Unforgiveness can be a subtle emotion that settles down inside of us and camouflages itself as anger. That anger shows up in a variety of ways. Cynicism, sarcasm, pissiness, resentfulness as well as stone cold silence are just a few of the ways anger and ultimately unforgiveness projects itself. We can direct…

The Cycle of Unforgiveness Unforgiveness has a way of tethering our thoughts to the past because thoughts of unforgiveness are cyclical and cycles are hard to break.  A familiar pattern of unforgiving thoughts might go like this: I think about the person and how they offended me. Then, I ruminate on that particular event and…