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A Better Past? “Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past,” is a quote from Lilly Tomlin. I have no idea what her past was like, but this quote reminds me that forgiveness is about our present reality, not what happened in our past.  I know from experience, that trauma is nothing that…

Benefits of Forgiveness Although there is a lot of scientific evidence to support the physical, mental and emotional benefits of forgiveness, I did not base my decision to forgive my father because of the scientific evidence. Instead, I came to a crossroads. I could either continue down the path of my anger or I could…

Our Woundedness One of the wonderful wonders of forgiveness is that it causes us to look at our past wounding with a new perspective. After we’ve experienced an emotional hurt, been harmed or violated in some way shape or form, we consciously or unconsciously invent coping methods to protect and guard ourselves from being hurt…

The Injustice Gap Not all offenses are created equal. The author Everett L. Worthington uses the term “injustice gap.”  He says that the greater the offense feels to us, the wider the injustice gap. The wider the injustice gap, the more difficult it is for us to forgive our offender. An injustice gap is what…