Estimating

When we estimate, we consider, assess, or evaluate. Estimating is a regular and natural thing we do on a daily basis. 

For instance, we consider how much time it will take to get from one place to another, we assess the cost of a vacation before taking one, and we evaluate the pros and cons of whether or not to take a new job. After we’ve done our estimating, then we make a decision to follow through or not.

Being accurate about our calculations is somewhat crucial to whatever comes next. Depending on how much time it takes to get from point A to point B will determine what time we leave from point A. How we calculate the expense of a vacation will seal the deal as to whether we stay or whether we go. And weighing the pros and cons of taking a new job will settle our choice. 

Estimating My Need to Forgive

What we choose to do or not do with forgiveness begins with a sane estimate of ourselves, our situation and our actions. 

My own experience with forgiveness came during a crisis with our oldest son. His teenage rebellion was over the top, beyond control and wreaking havoc in our home. Something needed to change and according to my calculations, he was the one who needed to change. But there was no way to force or enforce my conclusion of the situation. 

Consequently, I had to recalculate and when I did, I discovered my mistake. I was the one who needed to make the alteration. Recalculating forced me to take a sane estimation of myself which resulted in seeing that my reactions to my son’s rebellious ways were over the top and heavily loaded with anger. 

This new calculation of the situation of course, led me down a completely different course of action. Instead of finding a rehabilitation program for my son, I found one for myself.

My rehabilitation program began by reckoning with my past. For too long I’d gone along without estimating the damage caused by my father’s suicide. For too long I’d gotten along by ignoring my bitterness, resentments, hurt feelings and grudges. But taking a sane estimation of myself led me to forgiving those who’d not lived up to my standard.

Why Bother?

Why bother with an accurate estimation? An accurate estimation of ourselves will most likely lead us to a more accurate conclusion.

If you want to read my story A Heart’s Journey To Forgiveness click on either link Redemption Press or Amazon.