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Why Bother Staying Personable?

The pandemic, plandemic, or Chinese virus, changed the world and not necessarily for the better. Not only were there world wide deaths, but choosing to be vaccinated or choosing not to be vaccinated became a political issue that divided families and alienated friends seemingly forever. The virus, like an undeclared war, created fear, panic, and diverseness. And like any war, there are those who survive it, and somehow learn to live in the aftermath of the tragedy. 

                   Making the Best of the Circumstances

People have always adapted to the changes brought on by catastrophes. When the World Trade Centers came crashing down it did not put an end to air travel, but it did heighten security. Now, no one is allowed onto an airplane without going through a thorough check of one’s body, and identity. Also, be sure to leave your pocket knife at home unless you want it confiscated. The routines at airports have become expected protocol for anyone traveling by air. 

On the heels of  the pandemic, the plandemic or the Chinese virus, I’ve noticed a few changes far and near. 

First of all, it seems that  more people prefer to stay at home and work virtually rather than going to a place of work. This phenomenon has caused local health clubs and restaurants to become short staffed. Not only that, but when I go to the drug store to pick up vitamins that were once common inventory, I am now told they cannot get them any longer. My husband, who is in the building industry, has to inform his customers that windows and cabinets will take months to arrive. Where has all the inventory gone?

Secondly, it was common and ordinary for the general public to show the courtesy of acknowledging each other whether pedestrians, or bike riders. Now, it seems more people work hard to avoid eye contact. Along with that, natural greetings such as a hug or a handshake are no longer welcomed by some. Socializing, face to face instead of screen to screen is rare too. 

Finally, staff meetings and workshops are now mostly virtual. This virtual world may at times, be convenient, but it also takes away the three dimensional connection with other human beings. I remember attending an in-person yoga workshop where the teacher felt out of place being in the presence of real live people. She’d been teaching her workshops virtually for two years and had forgotten what it was like to be in the presence of living, breathing, human beings. 

Yes, we have survived what others did not, but we need to do more than just to survive, we need to remember what it is like to live like the social creatures we are, to be personable once again.

As much as possible, be sociable by inviting people into your home. Don’t be discouraged if they don’t come. Just broaden your circle until you find others who are comfortable mingling with you face to face. Also, don’t hesitate to wave and greet others whom you pass on the street. Be friendly, not afraid. Finally, profusely thank those waiters, waitresses and other service workers who show up for work in person. 

Why bother staying personally connected? We are social creatures created to be connected. Let’s be who we are meant to be, without our attachment to  fear.


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