Every Point Has a View

I found this quote, “Every point has a view,” in one of my Fat Little Notebooks. Unfortunately, I did not write down the name of the author. 

This quote reminds me though, that our world appears to have its polar opposite opinions, yet, there are still those who are able to show appreciation, grace and peace toward one another. 

Finding value and appreciating someone else’s point of view begins with seeing the value of the person, spending time with them and building trust. For me, my marriage has been the best ground to learn  how to appreciate someone else’s point of view. 

Why opposites attract is beyond my scope of understanding. I just know, from personal experience, that it happens. 

We were polar opposites to begin with. I was a chirpy morning person. He was silent and sullen. I liked predictable plans. He liked to roll with the punches. I wanted decisions to be made quickly. He liked to mull things over. I wanted him to be more like me. He liked me, but he was not about to be more like me. 

He held the stance of being himself. Yet, he was not blind to my point of view. Over time, and with conversation, I grew less combative, softening around the edges and taking into consideration; our points of view were not right and wrong. They were simply our view from a particular point. 

Over the years, we’ve become more intimately acquainted with each other and our trust grew. Trusting each other helps us to share more about where our particular point of view originated from. 

I grew up in a chaotic household. I wanted certainty in ours. He, on the other hand,  grew up in a rigid and rule based home. Rolling with the punches felt better to him. Now, I see there is room for both in our house.

Wanting him to be more like me, I thought, would dissolve the tension that springs up when a disagreement arises. But he knew that giving up himself, and not holding true, would be a detriment. And he was right. With our different points of view we form something new, a third point of view. 

Why Bother?

Why bother knowing every point has a view? Appreciating each other’s point and view can lead to forming a whole new point of view.

P.S.  I wrote the story of my journey to forgiveness for those who need clarity when it comes to understanding forgiveness. You can find A Heart’s Journey To Forgiveness at Redemption Press and Amazon.